TECH: Silencing the Inner Critic
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Original Posting Aug. 31, 2017
Over here, Matthey E. May talks about a common problem. Say you're sitting in a brainstorming session, and you have an idea, but... you squelch it, because, well, what if they don't like it? Fear of rejection, right? And there's even a mechanism explained for this! But what can you do?
https://medium.com/@MatthewEMay/3-simple-steps-to-silencing-your-inner-critic-74c9ff7de646
May recommends three steps.
1. Recognize the assumption that something bad will happen! You assume they won't like it, right? Or you assume that the story you're writing won't be good, right?
2. Think about reasons that will not happen! Go ahead, dream a little. Why won't they reject your idea? Why won't this story be bad?
3. Now, think about reasons why even if that bad consequence comes up, good things could result. Suppose they reject your idea, but it prompts someone else to come out with a better idea? Or suppose your story isn't the best in the world, but... it suggests another story that really is good?
So, three steps. Recognize the stumbling block, the cry of the inner critic. Figure out why you don't need to be afraid of that, why it isn't going to be true. And then, look at what happens even if you do stumble, even if that inner critic is right.
Don't just tell the inner critic to take a seat -- give them some good reasons to shut up.
Write!
tink
Over here, Matthey E. May talks about a common problem. Say you're sitting in a brainstorming session, and you have an idea, but... you squelch it, because, well, what if they don't like it? Fear of rejection, right? And there's even a mechanism explained for this! But what can you do?
https://medium.com/@MatthewEMay/3-simple-steps-to-silencing-your-inner-critic-74c9ff7de646
May recommends three steps.
1. Recognize the assumption that something bad will happen! You assume they won't like it, right? Or you assume that the story you're writing won't be good, right?
2. Think about reasons that will not happen! Go ahead, dream a little. Why won't they reject your idea? Why won't this story be bad?
3. Now, think about reasons why even if that bad consequence comes up, good things could result. Suppose they reject your idea, but it prompts someone else to come out with a better idea? Or suppose your story isn't the best in the world, but... it suggests another story that really is good?
So, three steps. Recognize the stumbling block, the cry of the inner critic. Figure out why you don't need to be afraid of that, why it isn't going to be true. And then, look at what happens even if you do stumble, even if that inner critic is right.
Don't just tell the inner critic to take a seat -- give them some good reasons to shut up.
Write!
tink