[identity profile] mbarker.livejournal.com
Original Posting 10 Oct 2009

Fair warning. I picked up a copy of Learned Optimism by Martin E. P. Seligman that I have had sitting on my shelf for a while and started reading it. I'll probably summarize some of the odds and ends from there, but in the meantime, pick a number from 1 to 6.

Got it? Okay, what you have selected is:
  1. A brother or sister leaves home for college or work.
  2. A pet dies -- this may seem trivial, but it is devastating.
  3. A grandparent whom the child knows well dies.
  4. The child moves to a new school -- loss of friends can be very disruptive.
  5. You and your spouse are fighting.
  6. You and your spouse divorce or separate -- along with parents' fights, this is the number one problem.
This is a list of events that cause children to go into depression, from page 145. Obviously, you are a parent of the child as the statements are phrased. But since we're interested in writing stories, consider taking that event as the initiating incident of a story. What does the child want to have happen, what do the parents want to have happen? Go ahead, imagine that happening in a family. Pick a point of view -- a protagonist who is experiencing this event. And then tell us what happened. You can make it realistic, you can make it fantastic. Given that we're in the middle of a Halloween horror contest, you could even make it horrible! After all, sometimes bad things get worse...

Anyway, have fun with it. These are very real bad events, but your story doesn't have to be a tragedy. In fact, starting with this, taking it into real horror, and then having the protagonist win despite everything can be very uplifting.
[identity profile] mbarker.livejournal.com
Original posting 26 September 2008

Serendipity -- that's when doing one thing produces a result somewhere else than you expected. Making hand cranked ice cream helps you lose weight because of the exercise, or some such.

In preparing for a course on research methods, I am reading some articles on various kinds of measurement and surveys and so forth. One of these from 1985 by Alwin and Krosnick compares ranking -- picking the most and least important items -- with rating -- giving each one a selected level of importance. Hohum stuff, capable of putting even academics to sleep. However, their experimental survey fascinated me because it is a measurement of parental evaluation of the qualities of children -- what do parents think are the most important qualities for a child to have? Of course, the results are buried in this dry academic comparison of measurement methods.

Before I go into their results, take a minute and consider for yourself which of these qualities you consider most important or least important for a child to have:
  1. That he has good manners
  2. That he tries hard to succeed
  3. That he is honest
  4. That he is neat and clean
  5. That he has good sense and sound judgment
  6. That he has self-control
  7. That he acts like a boy (she acts like a girl)
  8. That he gets along well with other children
  9. That he obeys his parents well
  10. That he is responsible
  11. That he is considerate of others
  12. That he is interested in how and why things happen
  13. That he is a good student
You might also want to consider what you think parents in the 1980s would have considered most important or least important.

I took it upon myself to really look at their results. Two thirds of the parents consider honesty as being one of the most important qualities. That's two out of every three parents. The next cluster is down around one third of the parents -- one in three -- and includes obedience to parents, good sense and sound judgment, responsibility, considerate, and self-control. The next three are in the high 20s and include good manners, tries hard to succeed, and interested in how and why things happen.

Then down at the bottom, with about 25%, or one in four parents, there is neat and clean, acts like a boy or girl, and gets along well with other children. And with just 23.6%, there's being a good student. The least important item on the list is being a good student.

Incidentally, ranking does change this a little bit. In that case, the three most important are honesty, good sense, and responsibility. The three least important are being neat and clean, being a good student, and the very least important is acting like a boy or a girl.

Either way, I think these are interesting results. I think it's too bad they didn't ask the children what they thought the parents believed -- that would've made a wonderful comparison. Still, cleanliness, gender-appropriate actions, getting along with others, and being a good student aren't important to parents? Honesty, good sense, responsible, considerate, self-control -- this is what parents want?

As Mr. Spock would say, fascinating. And they published those results in a study on measurement methods. Serendipity!
[identity profile] mbarker.livejournal.com
Original posting 21 June 2007

Okay, here's the deal.

pick a number from one to seven. Have you got it?

Now go over to http://us.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/parenting/06/21/par.quirky.discipline/index.html

where you should find an article about rules for interacting with your children. They're kind of fun and the article has some explanation about where they came from and why they work.

Do you remember your number? Look at the article and take that rule. Pick two or three characters, and imagine them in interaction of some kind. Now have one of them pull out that handy rule and try to get it accepted and acted on by the others. Add appropriate scenes, a bit of personal conflict and agendas, and there you have it, a nice little short story.

I have to run. This weekend we are taking a group of American students to see Kyoto, which means little or no time for the computer. On the other hand, I get to see real people doing real things in the real world, which is always kind of fun.

Later
tink

[just in case that page has disappeared -- the names of the rules are:
  1. You can't be in the room when I'm working unless you work, too.
  2. I don't work past 8 PM
  3. You get what you get, and you don't throw a fit
  4. Take that show on the road
  5. We don't argue about money
  6. I can't understand you when you speak like that
  7. There's no such thing as boredom.]

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